The Women in Minneapolis...

[jmaul]

pretty fucking unstable.

[Passing Glimpse]

Just like everywhere else.

[Passing Glimpse]

Or maybe it's the fact that you have or do hang out with unstable wimmins here in Minneapolis.

[Neurotic]

doesnt take a genius to figure that one out bro.

[IgnatiusJReilly]

Off topic: I love Nabokov's work. Kind of surprised to see the name pop up here.

[Carnage]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Vladimir Nabokov:
pretty fucking unstable.<hr></blockquote>

True.

WhutUpWithThaTraxHomie?

[NaSp]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Vladimir Nabokov:
pretty fucking unstable.<hr></blockquote>

I second that...

[jmaul]

CARNAGE-
Oh man... I have been stuck in some major work/relationship stress.

Winter is kickin' up and work is evening out so I should be able to get my shit together here pretty quick.
___________

Nabokov was a pretty amazing dude. He and Joyce are my favorite writers in the english language. I think most people that appreciate good writing would agree they are the best.
___________
Christina-
You might be right, but I have dated and been friends with all sorts of girls with all sorts of interests, etc. I have known a lot of stable girls as friends and when it moves into relationship territory the true colors come out- it's like that old show V.

[Carnage]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Vladimir Nabokov:
CARNAGE-
Oh man... I have been stuck in some major work/relationship stress.

Winter is kickin' up and work is evening out so I should be able to get my shit together here pretty quick.<hr></blockquote>


It's all good. Just let me know when you are ready. I'm patient :D . Hope thangz git better 4 U dawg.

[Mr. Grouchface]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Vladimir Nabokov:
pretty fucking unstable.<hr></blockquote>

thats why you graemlins/bandit.gif and just tune them fuckers out. if they dont tune out, obviously you havent graemlins/bandit.gif enough or you didnt offer them any graemlins/bandit.gif to put dat ass to sleep. if graemlins/bandit.gif multiple times doesnt work. pick up the sticks and play some video games.

[Hater Dave]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Vladimir Nabokov:
it's like that old show V.<hr></blockquote>

http://http://www.imdb.com/gallery/mptv/1060/10882-0021.jpg

[jmaul]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Asbestos:


thats why you graemlins/bandit.gif and just tune them fuckers out. if they dont tune out, obviously you havent graemlins/bandit.gif enough or you didnt offer them any graemlins/bandit.gif to put dat ass to sleep. if graemlins/bandit.gif multiple times doesnt work. pick up the sticks and play some video games.<hr></blockquote>

I gave up smokin and videogames for my girl, but I am thinking giving up anything for a girl might be a mistake.

[cheetah]

hahahaaaa! this is too funny. I do know some unstable women but ...
For the record - a lot of men I know can barely keep a job, don't know what they want in life, lie about stupid shit for no reason, and treat themselves and other people like shit.

That's my definition for unstable. What's yours?

[ElephantElbowDrop]

i agree to some extent-you can give up some stuff but you shouldnt give it all up-F***that-if she doesnt want you for the video game addict we all are-then f her. Plus San Andreas is ill. And Maddens hitstick gets the defense rollin. So pick up the sticks and get with it...
Well thats the perspective of a man with no intentions of ever having another gurlfren

[Carnage]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by cheetah:
hahahaaaa! this is too funny. I do know some unstable women but ...
For the record - a lot of men I know can barely keep a job, don't know what they want in life, lie about stupid shit for no reason, and treat themselves and other people like shit.

That's my definition for unstable. What's yours?<hr></blockquote>

And women aren't responsible for this type of behavior also? Hmmm...

[Mr. Grouchface]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Vladimir Nabokov:


I gave up smokin and videogames for my girl, but I am thinking giving up anything for a girl might be a mistake.<hr></blockquote>

girls that force lifestyle changes generally spell doom right from the get go. if you girl cant accept who you are right from the get go and has "issues" with you, than chances are the girl has "issues" too.

my girl is pretty tight though. she actually encouraged my ass to get out of bed last weekend to play super mario world on the SNES while she whooped up breakfast and did some around the house chores. she's the first girl i think i've dated that doesnt have any real serious flaws or is unstable, granted she can get moody and crabby, but its never anything permanent. she just doesnt like it when i bust a dutch oven on dat ass after a night of PBRs.

graemlins/urrr.gif

[jmaul]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by cheetah:
hahahaaaa! this is too funny. I do know some unstable women but ...
For the record - a lot of men I know can barely keep a job, don't know what they want in life, lie about stupid shit for no reason, and treat themselves and other people like shit.

That's my definition for unstable. What's yours?<hr></blockquote>


I did just state in another thread that most men here are f'ed as well. I am not one of them. I wont go into why because I'm not going to be the big man on the internet, take the claim for what it's worth.

Unstable is exactly what it means, there is no hidden definition- the behavior is shit like:

-saying you want something to happen, having it happen, and then complaining that it wasnt what you wanted

-saying you are happy, content, etc. then three hours later initiating a fight and breaking up, then one hour later coming back and appologizing and getting back together

-giving a gift, then taking it back in a fight,then giving it back after the fight is over

-treating some people well, and other people with the same habits and behavior very poorly

-saying you dont condone specific behavior, then taking part in that behavior yourself and somehow justifying it as being different and acceptable

In the category of bad person, though stable, there are some other common behaviors:
-telling your bf who he can and cant hang out with
-telling him what he can and can't do
-twisting shit around so you are always the victim
-offering ultimatums
-doing crazy shit like giving your bf a puppy or a ring or getting his name tattooed on your ass after 3 months of dating

I could go on for days with this really.

[Carnage]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Asbestos:
my girl is pretty tight though. she's the first girl i think i've dated that doesnt have any real serious flaws or is unstable<hr></blockquote>

And that ass is pretty nice too graemlins/yes.gif :D ;) tongue.gif graemlins/devil.gif graemlins/yes.gif !

[Hater Dave]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Vladimir Nabokov:



I did just state in another thread that most men here are f'ed as well. I am not one of them. I wont go into why because I'm not going to be the big man on the internet, take the claim for what it's worth.

Unstable is exactly what it means, there is no hidden definition- the behavior is shit like:

-saying you want something to happen, having it happen, and then complaining that it wasnt what you wanted

-saying you are happy, content, etc. then three hours later initiating a fight and breaking up, then one hour later coming back and appologizing and getting back together

-giving a gift, then taking it back in a fight,then giving it back after the fight is over

-treating some people well, and other people with the same habits and behavior very poorly

-saying you dont condone specific behavior, then taking part in that behavior yourself and somehow justifying it as being different and acceptable

In the category of bad person, though stable, there are some other common behaviors:
-telling your bf who he can and cant hang out with
-telling him what he can and can't do
-twisting shit around so you are always the victim
-offering ultimatums
-doing crazy shit like giving your bf a puppy or a ring or getting his name tattooed on your ass after 3 months of dating

I could go on for days with this really.<hr></blockquote>

sorry to hear that dude I see that type of stuff all the time. Lucky for me my life is perfect but I recognize the agony and frustration in all of that stuff mentioned.
graemlins/peace.gif

[ElephantElbowDrop]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Vladimir Nabokov:



-telling your bf who he can and cant hang out with
-telling him what he can and can't do
-doing crazy shit like giving your bf a puppy or a ring or getting his name tattooed on your ass after 3 months of dating

I could go on for days with this really.<hr></blockquote>

HAHAHAHHAHAAA! thats shitty! sorry to laugh at your misfortunes...

[ November 18, 2004: Message edited by: ElephantElbowDrop ]</p>

[cheetah]

ok, but this is a girl you chose to date right? and how long did you choose to put up with it?

[cheetah]

Carnage - in response to your previous post about women being like that too:

you are probably right. I wasn't saying women weren't like that - I was simply giving the other perspective that seemed to be lacking from the conversation.

and once again, for the record: every woman I know has a job - I can't say that for the fellas

[jmaul]

oh this is not one girl, this is a combination of experiences my friends and I have had...

I dont put up with much of this. Some yes, depending upon the girl and how dope she is in other aspects.

[Golden]

Is this the reason you never kick it anymore?

[cheetah]

that's your problem then man. if she's unstable it will never be good. all other positive aspects become null and void.
not to say that she doesn't have potential - but if she is doing the things that you said she has a long, long way to go to gain a full recovery. I guess if you want to help a sister out you can stick with her but it won't be a fun ride and it might not be worth it in the end.

my advice to men and women is to just relax and have fun. I don't think that most people even have a clue of what they really want until you are past 26.

[jmaul]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Golden:
Is this the reason you never kick it anymore?<hr></blockquote>

Pretty much, man.
I went through this phase of meeting mass new people, only to find that I already knew most of the people worth knowing and I was ignoring them to get to know some assholes.

You need to swing through my new house soon.
I need you to school me on some studio dynamics, my midi chain is still all jacked and I use protools like a damn multitrack recorder. I am in town a lot more now.

I'ma make a best effort to get to your show sat though.

[Golden]

Yo...sounds good. Come thru the Uptown Bar on Sat night. I will throw you on the list. It would be good to chop it up and have a drink.

[Mr. Grouchface]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by CARNAGE The Executioner:


And that ass is pretty nice too graemlins/yes.gif :D ;) tongue.gif graemlins/devil.gif graemlins/yes.gif !<hr></blockquote>

tru.
graemlins/bandit.gif

[illest_one]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by cheetah:
hahahaaaa! this is too funny. I do know some unstable women but ...
For the record - a lot of men I know can barely keep a job, don't know what they want in life, lie about stupid shit for no reason, and treat themselves and other people like shit.

That's my definition for unstable. What's yours?<hr></blockquote>


SOOOOOO TRUE

[ROTARY FAN NECK]

giving anything up for anybody is kinda wierd. must not be love. To all the unstable ladies out there-you know I love you. Forget the paxil, Im all you need-stability is mty middle name. HAHAHAHAHAHA&gt; graemlins/peace.gif tongue.gif graemlins/urrr.gif

[quest]

in response to cheetah's statement about ppl not knowing what they want till 26 or after...

girl, i couldnt agree more. seriously, now dont get me wrong, this is not always the case, bc there are many ppl younger than 26 whom are married or engaged, but i do AGREE that until someone is old enough and mature enough to show respect for the other, and know what they want, the relationship prolly wont be successful. (i did say prolly, so not always)...sometimes ppl move into shit too fast and then thats when it gets fucked up. i sure as hell know that i wont be ready for a while and Im almost 23. but to each his own. everyone is different and unique.

[Hype*]

women are beautiful...
bitches are ugly...

[Patrick Bateman]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by LL:
women are beautiful...
bitches are ugly...<hr></blockquote>

aaaallll bitcheees aaaiiinnntt shhhhhiiiiit!!!!! graemlins/bandit.gif

[Mr. Grouchface]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Patrick Bateman:


aaaallll bitcheees aaaiiinnntt shhhhhiiiiit!!!!! graemlins/bandit.gif <hr></blockquote>

unless they nekked.

[Patrick Bateman]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Asbestos:


unless they nekked.<hr></blockquote>

That Redman shit is dope, dunpeal graemlins/yes.gif

[cheetah]

quest - thanks for the comments. the thing is, it's good to just go out and have fun, figure out what you want, figure out what you don't want, etc.
By the time you are 26, you will have probably settled down, grown up a lot, and realized all the dumb shit you've done, and decided what you really want and need.

and I do agree that there are always exceptions. ;)

[Mr. Grouchface]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Patrick Bateman:


That Redman shit is dope, dunpeal graemlins/yes.gif <hr></blockquote>

One of the better parts of that movie... graemlins/lol.gif

[jmaul]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by cheetah:
quest - thanks for the comments. the thing is, it's good to just go out and have fun, figure out what you want, figure out what you don't want, etc.
By the time you are 26, you will have probably settled down, grown up a lot, and realized all the dumb shit you've done, and decided what you really want and need.

and I do agree that there are always exceptions. ;) <hr></blockquote>


I think drawing a line in the sand and saying by 26 it all makes sense is flirting with disaster. You might be 26, and might have a shitload more figured out then when you were 22, but you can't honestly say that you dont expect to look back at 26 when you are 30 and feel like you havent figured out more in terms of what you want and need to be happy- both in a relationship and in life. I used to get frustrated that it took a while to develop and learn about my place in the world, like I thought I could hurry it up and maybe reach a plateu, but believing you can attain some ultimate understanding is worship of a false idol. Every one of us is going to keep learning until the day we die, further understanding our world, our place, others, and ourselves. The day you stop learning something (and to some degree, everything) is the day you die.

[Mr. Grouchface]

but what does happen to those women who do not find a mate at an early age and become life partners? what happens to the older woman when she does not have a man to call her own at the ripe old age of 35-40? lets see what urbandictionary.com has to say about this:

"COUGAR"

Noun. A 35+ year old female who is on the "hunt" for a much younger, energetic, willing-to-do-anything male. The cougar can frequently be seen in a padded bra, cleavage exposed, propped up against a swanky bar in San Francisco (or other cities)waiting, watching, calculating; gearing up to sink her claws into an innocent young and strapping buck who happens to cross her path. "Man is cougar's number one prey".

Don't let this happen to you...

[Patrick Bateman]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Asbestos:
but what does happen to those women who do not find a mate at an early age and become life partners? what happens to the older woman when she does not have a man to call her own at the ripe old age of 35-40? lets see what urbandictionary.com has to say about this:

"COUGAR"

Noun. A 35+ year old female who is on the "hunt" for a much younger, energetic, willing-to-do-anything male. The cougar can frequently be seen in a padded bra, cleavage exposed, propped up against a swanky bar in San Francisco (or other cities)waiting, watching, calculating; gearing up to sink her claws into an innocent young and strapping buck who happens to cross her path. "Man is cougar's number one prey".

Don't let this happen to you...<hr></blockquote>

graemlins/lol.gif graemlins/yes.gif graemlins/lol.gif graemlins/yes.gif alias, MILF

[Mr. Grouchface]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Patrick Bateman:


graemlins/lol.gif graemlins/yes.gif graemlins/lol.gif graemlins/yes.gif alias, MILF<hr></blockquote>

no. no. no. there is a HUUUUGE difference between a MILF and a COUGAR. examples:

MILF:

http://www4.mmedia.is/grettir/images/beibur/thumbs/brooke%20burke.jpg

(yes, brooke burke has a kid)

COUGAR:

http://www.40plus-older-women.com/audrey-older-women-pictures/dsc00539.jpg

HUGE difference dunny... graemlins/huh.gif

[ November 19, 2004: Message edited by: Asbestos ]</p>

[Neurotic]

<blockquote>quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Neurotic:
doesnt take a genius to figure that one out bro.<hr></blockquote>

That was the boyfriend.. just so everyone knows.

[KandisKnight]

More good stuff...2159 posts....bear with me everyone.

[YOU MAD]

sistas tell the truth
bitches tell lies
sistas drive themselves
bitches wanna ride.

[ems]

women are crazy that is just what makes them so interesting to shoot at!

[naturalelement]

Originally posted by YOU MAD?:
sistas tell the truth
bitches tell lies
sistas drive themselves
bitches wanna ride. how fitting.

[BIZZLE]

Originally posted by EMS:
women are crazy that is just what makes them so interesting to shoot at! graemlins/lol.gif graemlins/lol.gif

[soulvssynapse]

there are plenty of lazy, unmotivated women with no job. Just like i cant say all women are crazy based on only my experience, you can't say that there are men without jobs as being something screwed up, stating all the women YOU know have jobs, and then acting like that's a universal truth because of your experience. men and women are equally as lazy, some in different ways, but all are.

[Passing Glimpse]

Originally posted by naturalelement:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by YOU MAD?:
sistas tell the truth
bitches tell lies
sistas drive themselves
bitches wanna ride. how fitting. </font>[/QUOTE]So which are you a sista or a bitch?

graemlins/bandit.gif

[KandisKnight]

I'm 100% sista!!!!!!!

[Passing Glimpse]

I'm 100% Sista in a white way... ;)

100% Real
100% woman
100% hard working

100% TRUTHFUL!

[cheetah]

these guys are just mad cuz they keep choosing dumb ass women. bitter

tongue.gif I'm just kidding.

[PaChAcUtEc1781]

hey des.....

look what we did at 7th st....


http://i17.photobucket.com/albums/b54/Palabristas/IMG_4714.jpg

[naturalelement]

hahahhahaaa....yea. an u drive too.

[KandisKnight]

Christina,

You are 100% sista!!!! You my sista!!!! For those who don't know....forget what you may have heard...here is the truth about Christina.

True, you are astonishingly young, but nevertheless, mature beyond your years. Your mind is tight, you are so intelligent, you are strong, sophisticated, loving, you have more integrity in your little finger than most people have in their entire lifetime!

You are always helping others, you are always concerned for others, you are always praying for others, you are a joy to be around, you always take the high road when people lie about you or attempt to bash you ....you keep the faith and the truth is always revealed sweetie!

You take care of your friends and family, you keep it real, you are honest, you are patient with people, you are a good role model, you work hard, you hook people up, you are consistent, you keep your word, you are positive, you look for the best in people, besides a little Mary Jane you vigorously stay away from drugs, you got my back and I am lucky and blessed our two kindred souls met.

I needed a friend like you because we are both too damn nice and it is good to know you are someone who will not take advantage of my softness. She always tells me not to be so nice to everyone because everyone does not deserve it.

So there you have it....the TRUTH about Christina.

[PaChAcUtEc1781]

kandis wrote a love poem!

[mikus]

Originally posted by Vladimir Nabokov:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Asbestos:


thats why you graemlins/bandit.gif and just tune them fuckers out. if they dont tune out, obviously you havent graemlins/bandit.gif enough or you didnt offer them any graemlins/bandit.gif to put dat ass to sleep. if graemlins/bandit.gif multiple times doesnt work. pick up the sticks and play some video games.Ding ding ding..
I gave up smokin and videogames for my girl, but I am thinking giving up anything for a girl might be a mistake. </font>[/QUOTE]

[KandisKnight]

Originally posted by cheetah:
these guys are just mad cuz they keep choosing dumb ass women. bitter

tongue.gif I'm just kidding. Des you a sista too!!!!

[KandisKnight]

Man I'd take a bullet for that girl!!!!

[PaChAcUtEc1781]

i like cris...she is really supportive..all one can ask from people is to be there...even though..she has not made to any of my recent events..i still got much respect... tongue.gif

[mikus]

Fuck sluts.. The good girls got rings on their fingers, but they get cocked too.. I offer cock to many a bitch , they love it, but then they love you.

[KandisKnight]

Oh Esco....who broke your heart so bad? Jaded?

[naturalelement]

esco, if ur grl only read the thngs u post...course, she prolly already knows wht she's gottn herslf into! ;)

[KandisKnight]

HA!!!!!

[Passing Glimpse]

All ya'll are so Sweet!

Thanks Kandis for writing that lovely post, you know I'd take a bullet for you too!

Rodrigo- I got you! :D

Much Love!

:D

[ October 14, 2005, 11:27 AM: Message edited by: Christina ]

[KandisKnight]

Originally posted by Rodrigo:
i like cris...she is really supportive..all one can ask from people is to be there...even though..she has not made to any of my recent events..i still got much respect... tongue.gif Now Rigo....how many years you been doing music? And how many years will you continue to do music? We got plenty time....the party is just beginning.

[YOU MAD]

sistas get respect
bitches get what they deserve
sistas work hard
bitches work your nerve

[PaChAcUtEc1781]

Originally posted by Kandis:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Rodrigo:
i like cris...she is really supportive..all one can ask from people is to be there...even though..she has not made to any of my recent events..i still got much respect... tongue.gif Now Rigo....how many years you been doing music? And how many years will you continue to do music? We got plenty time....the party is just beginning. </font>[/QUOTE]i rock poetry...spoken word...i'd like to do some music...collab with people...

[KandisKnight]

Poetry is music!

[PaChAcUtEc1781]

ahhhhhhhhhhhh...don't wanna get into that argument...but the words used in music is poetry..

this is the group i do stuff with

www.palabristas.com (http://www.palabristas.com)

[KandisKnight]

I know!

[KandisKnight]

and it is lovely.

[fuckyfucky]

The problem is that all the girls in minneapolis always think their right, but they are just fat and nasty. That's right all the girls on this message board need to go on a diet.

[Mr. Grouchface]

Originally posted by naturalelement:
esco, if ur grl only read the thngs u post... esco... my girl reads my posts.

i caught some quasi-hell for this one.

damn flippin eves droppin hanson lovin broad! damn u!

[HUSTLER]

women in minneapolis continue to dissappointment me.

then again that's just me.

[Passing Glimpse]

Originally posted by Grouchy Ass Dave:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by naturalelement:
esco, if ur grl only read the thngs u post... esco... my girl reads my posts.

i caught some quasi-hell for this one.

damn flippin eves droppin hanson lovin broad! damn u! </font>[/QUOTE]Isn't this thread from before you were even dating her?

[Mr. Grouchface]

nope. we've been dating for 2 years and some spare change now.

[Passing Glimpse]

Damn time flys!

[Mr. Grouchface]

Originally posted by Christina:
Damn time flys! i got scars to prove it. girl beats me... she has put the fear of god in me and now i cannot escape. shes a quasi-husband beater!!!

HELP ME!

[cheetah]

well, somebody's gotta beat the good men down. You know, it's best if we keep em submissive then they won't revolt.

[PaChAcUtEc1781]

Originally posted by cheetah:
well, somebody's gotta beat the good men down. You know, it's best if we keep em submissive then they won't revolt. graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif

[jmaul]

almost another year wiser here...

I think the issue may be just the majority of women you meet, which begs the question: how and where do you meet the quality people?

I know this is an issue for women too.

Plenty of men cheat, lie, scheme, don't care about anyone but themselves, can't commit, and can't hold a real job.

Plenty of women overreact, propose ultimatums, expect men to spend money on them, lead themselves on, cheat, lie, and dig their nose all in where it doesnt belong.

How about some new discussion points-

1) Is there a point where the good people to date join the masses of bad people to date- where you basically give up on the idea of a lasting partnership and decide to just look out for self?

2) Do perfect relationships exist? Can you be 100% compatible and understood in a relationship, or will there always be a point where you curb your behavior/wants to make your partner happy?

3) What are you willing to change for someone in a relationship? fashion? drug habits? hobbies? religion? friends? how you eat?

[KandisKnight]

Okay you know I talk to fucking much....so here...

Currently I am HAPPILY looking out for self because I really do not see many guys on my level. I have worked hard to get to where I am (own my own house, car paid off, debt paid off, investing all while being a strong single parent for my son and my younger brother who I raised since he was 14 years old) and so I would not choose a guy who is not at my level or a little above me. I am the backbone of my family....I took my mother's place when she died.

1. Spiritually
2. Mentally
3. Financially
4. Physically
5. Sexually

It all has to add up.

I got a dog because most guys in my life really have no long term potential. They are fun to hang out with, go to the movies, read books, ride motorcycles etc. But no one I would settle down with. Guys usually meet me, find out a little about me and get scared. So I cut them out and then the next thing I know they are coming back but I usually don’t hand out second chances. I need a true Kingly type of dude….who can recognize his blessings when they are before him.

Some guys are afraid to express their feelings and that is also a big turn off to me. But I don’t want no bitch either…because if I feel a guy is a bitch….it is hard for me to respect him. I have gotten to know some pretty incredible guys who I really did like but sometimes their attitude is shitty if they think they are the shit. I have dated guys from Doctors, to Lawyers to Athletes to Musicians to the Average Joes and I have not found the perfect match maybe I am way too picky...I just know I will know when the time comes. Sometimes I want to be single forever though. Honestly. Which is not strange for the women in my family or Gemini women. We are too busy doing other things.

There is always something. I think I am doing my thing, but I try to remain humble, no one likes an asshole. Guys really don’t like girls like me….they don’t like the things I like (socializing etc.) they are intimidated by all the guy friends I have and they think that just because I like to go out and kick it that I am into some crazy underground sex and drug scene. Some guys just believe the things other guys say about a lady but they never think other guys will pour salt just to get them out of the way? Hummmmmmm....

My persona….Kandiapolis is definitely a party girl but I also enjoy sitting down and meditating or reading a book….or studying the things I like to study (alchemy, astrology, reiki, gardening, history, politics, interior decoration, business organization etc.)

Guys do not like Divas they like the school girls. Who they can control and tuck in at night so they can come hang out with girls like me.

And they do not really want to look at a woman as an equal…..but I won’t have it any other way. If I come into the relationship with assets…..I am gonna have a say in what goes down.

I have learned that your friends are more important than some guy you are dating who may be here today and gone tomorrow. Guys either just want sex and sometimes so do I ….but I enjoy saving my energy…my essence for the guy who really has a strong connection with me. Also the guy has to get along well with my family cuz they are somewhat overprotective. A lot of guys think they are smarter than they really are until they meet me and then they feel like I am talking down to them because I challenge things they have held or their patterns of thinking. And then all of a sudden I become a bitch. So there is usually friction if he is a fake intellectual. I need a man who understands and appreciates my intelligence. Very hard to find.

2) Do perfect relationships exist? Can you be 100% compatible and understood in a relationship, or will there always be a point where you curb your behavior/wants to make your partner happy?

I don’t think no human is perfect and so I do not think there is a perfect relationship. Being in a relationship teaches us how to grow up and put the needs of another before our own. Destiny’s Child hit the nail on the head with the song Cater 2U. But where is the follow up song for the women made by a man? I will give 100%…..and remain 100% faithful to my King…..but he has got to be one bad muthafukka I think I would be perfect with Big Boi. HA! J/k

3) What are you willing to change for someone in a relationship? fashion? drug habits? hobbies? religion? friends? how you eat?

I will change anything if it is for the POSITIVE. And I expect my partner to do the same thing. I used to jog 3 miles every morning with my ex husband and that was the best. I have not met a man who could fill those shoes (running 3 miles a day part) yet but I can’t wait until I meet him. He is going to be one spoiled happy dude. But he has to be truly exceptional in many different ways because I am a pro at this relationship business. And I see through all the fronts. I know I will feel it in my heart when Mr. Right comes....and he will behave a certain way....for now I am having a great time.

[HUSTLER]

i think i'm a pretty good guy. i do all that gay relationship shit pretty well. you know, tell you nice things, hug you, not ignore you around my friends, always pay for shit, never cheat, always answer your phone calls, call you regularly, etc. with sincerity too, like i won't play you, i'm pretty real about that shit.

and yet, i draw in some of the worst, worst women ever. every girl that's interested in me is usually really weird, or just psycho, sometimes both. whatever, i do alright.

i live a really, really depressing immature life, that should be obvious by now.

this screams emo, sorry. what the fuck is my problem.

[ October 15, 2005, 04:59 AM: Message edited by: garrison pierre: hate me. ]

[ThatSneakerPimp]

That shit is soooo not YOUR problem. If you truly are doing all of those nice things you listed, the problem is with the women you date. Maybe they aren't confident enough in themselves to think that they deserve to be treated well, therefore they act all weird and psycho. Don't blame yourself for other peoples feelings. Maybe just get to know these bitches a little better before you give them 1st-round-draft-pick status...Good luck, most women would be thrilled to have a man that does half of that. Where were you when I was looking?

[KandisKnight]

I agree with That Bitch, it is not your fault. The things you are doing are not "gay" either. The older we get the more problems, hurts, baggage etc. people bring into the relationship. It only gets worse...you will eventually begin meeting emotional logs or people who have just given up on any possibility that a meaningful relationship "could" come along. They always have that distant look in their eyes and they expect you to prove everything and refuse to give anything. Fun.

[HUSTLER]

i was drunk when i wrote that, thats why i called it "gay", sorry.

thanks ladies, nice insight.

[jmaul]

Originally posted by Kandis:
They always have that distant look in their eyes and they expect you to prove everything and refuse to give anything. I think this is a more temporary thing, and a good indicator that its time for the person to chill on dating for a bit and come back to it when they reach a better mindset.

[squire]

I chilled for like 8 months and recently came back with vengence, gotta lock one down for the winter to stay warm ;)

[fuckyfucky]

You guys really need to stop messing with fat girls self esteem. Look they are fat that need to be told that. There's no respect in saying it's genetics or they're big boned. Y'all minneapolis girls are fat and need to diet. Oh yeah, and Ronin came out of the closet on National coming out day. I guess the dude loves to suck dick. At least he's OK with that. Respect to Ronin. Fuck all you pansy rollerbladers though. Go wax a ledge and keep grinding punks, you know who you are. Jimmith.

[HUSTLER]

Originally posted by squire:
gotta lock one down for the winter to stay warm ;) i agree. the search continues.

[fuckyfucky]

If you like being suffocated

[NaSp]

1yr old tread & still kickin.

[mikus]

my girls can't read..

[naturalelement]

Originally posted by Esco:
my girls can't read.. which is why u spend time in jail. graemlins/browsmiley.gif

[MpLsKiKi]

Originally posted by naturalelement:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Esco:
my girls can't read.. which is why u spend time in jail. graemlins/browsmiley.gif </font>[/QUOTE]hahahaha graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif

[MpLsKiKi]

Originally posted by naturalelement:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Esco:
my girls can't read.. which is why u spend time in jail. graemlins/browsmiley.gif </font>[/QUOTE]graemlins/rofl.gif graemlins/rofl.gif

[FYBS]

all I know is that if you keep them happy, the'll keep you happy. For instance:

I was sick as hell all weekend (throwin' up, cold sweats, fever, temp. of 102, etc.) My girlfriend took care of me like a mother. brought me tea and popsicles and shit. That's love, sucka.

[mikus]

graemlins/lol.gif you got me tiff..

[jimmith]

Originally posted by fuckyfucky:
You guys really need to stop messing with fat girls self esteem. Look they are fat that need to be told that. There's no respect in saying it's genetics or they're big boned. Y'all minneapolis girls are fat and need to diet. Oh yeah, and Ronin came out of the closet on National coming out day. I guess the dude loves to suck dick. At least he's OK with that. Respect to Ronin. Fuck all you pansy rollerbladers though. Go wax a ledge and keep grinding punks, you know who you are. Jimmith. you sure do hate fat girls...
maybe someone is having some self-esteem issues?

but seriously, get off my dick...

[KandisKnight]

Originally posted by FYBS:
all I know is that if you keep them happy, the'll keep you happy. For instance:

I was sick as hell all weekend (throwin' up, cold sweats, fever, temp. of 102, etc.) My girlfriend took care of me like a mother. brought me tea and popsicles and shit. That's love, sucka. That is the shiznit!!! The only part of being in a relationship I MIGHT miss...but then again I am home sick today and got a friend bringing over some medicine and soup. But I guess I don't want to give him the wrong impression by asking him to cater to my sick ass. Hey he might be expecting something in return....see always a catch!

[naturalelement]

i know tht whn i was going through one of the toughest times in my life, it was my boyfriend who kept me afloat, if it wasn't for him, lord knows whr i'd b today. he's also helped me see the light bout ppl and made me stronger. i thank the higher power every damn day for him.

[KandisKnight]

Damn, how long have you two been committed to eachother? Has it already been some years now? It seems like y'all been together for a long ass time.

Congratulations to REAL LOVE....I love to see strong devoted couples that remain steadfast and loving until they are old and gray. It is rare to find something so genuine. So pure. So I admire that when I see it. I wish he would come out more, I miss joking around with him.

[PaChAcUtEc1781]

kandis..thats what u need ur own man..u just a hard cookie 2 satisfy...

[KandisKnight]

You were supposed to hook me up with a mail order hubby....what happened to that.

[HUSTLER]

Originally posted by Kandis:
Congratulations to REAL LOVE....I love to see strong devoted couples that remain steadfast and loving until they are old and gray. It is rare to find something so genuine. So pure. So I admire that when I see it. I wish he would come out more, I miss joking around with him. yeah i'd hold on to that shit like a grudge.

[KandisKnight]

When it is real love....it holds on to you.

[HUSTLER]

i dont know about that. god damn i'm bitter these days.

[Mr. Grouchface]

Originally posted by garrison pierre: hate me.:
i dont know about that. god damn i'm bitter these days. i feel ya, man. someone is one comment away from gettin donkey punched right now.

[mcarples]

yup...fuck love (when you ain't got it)

[jimmith]

Originally posted by McarPLeS:
yup...fuck love (when you ain't got it) agreed...

[KandisKnight]

Kandi loves you crazy asses.....muah!!!! Keep your heads up.

[cliff snotes]

thanks kandis thats all that really counts....

[HUSTLER]

see post in my party thread, please.

[jimmith]

these bitches is crazy...

they nuckin futs!

[KandisKnight]

Originally posted by garrison pierre: hate me.:
see post in my party thread, please. That will only help you inch closer to 2224 posts though!!!.....Well, ALRIGHT!

[MiKe319]

Just moved here 4 months ago and im gonna have to fully agree.

[HUSTLER]

Originally posted by Kandis:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by garrison pierre: hate me.:
see post in my party thread, please. That will only help you inch closer to 2224 posts though!!!.....Well, ALRIGHT! </font>[/QUOTE]you've slowed down, im comin up behind you real quick.

[MAD BIRD]

The Women in St. Paul...

[HUSTLER]

there's women in st. paul?

[jimmith]

st. paul = shelbyville

[MAD BIRD]

an insult means alot coming from you.

[KandisKnight]

Originally posted by garrison pierre:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Kandis:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by garrison pierre: hate me.:
see post in my party thread, please. That will only help you inch closer to 2224 posts though!!!.....Well, ALRIGHT! </font>[/QUOTE]you've slowed down, im comin up behind you real quick. </font>[/QUOTE]I see you....I am watching you! The real world is interfereing with my on-line life right now. If you pass me I will still catch you.

[HUSTLER]

you also declined my myspace friendship, this means it's on.

[HUSTLER]

^^^probably the nerdiest thing i've ever said...

[jimmith]

Originally posted by garrison pierre:
^^^probably the nerdiest thing i've ever said... i dont know, when you used to quote sole all the time...